Bittersweet Goodbye to Kindergarten
Bittersweet Goodbye to Kindergarten

Early Friday morning, Kristen Tulp awoke with a customary end-of-year lump in her throat.
Even after nearly 30 years in the classroom, saying goodbye never gets easier.
Shortly after drop-off, Ms. Tulp, a kindergarten teacher at John M. Marshall Elementary School, gathered her 16 students together on the rainbow-colored rug one last time. Before their graduation ceremony began, she told them how proud she was of everything they had accomplished and how each child had grown in his or her own way.
“It’s bittersweet. We take them so far in kindergarten and then you have to give them away,” Ms. Tulp said earlier this week. “It’s a strong bond and one that isn’t repeated in exactly the same way. You’re the mother. You’re the teacher. You’re everything.”
Ms. Tulp considers these the magic years, when children enter her classroom bursting with possibility, their personalities and interests just beginning to form. One hundred and eighty school days later, the class ebbs and flows less like a group of strangers and more like a family — acutely aware of each other’s strengths and weaknesses, of when to push and when to back off.
“They really bonded together and took care of each other,” said Ms. Tulp, who, apart from teaching her students how to read and write, pays particular attention to building character and teaching the difference between right and wrong. Mostly, she wants to instill in them the importance of looking out for each other. “Character is the most important. If you can build that in kindergarten, they’re going to feel good about themselves and be a success and help other kids.”
The East Hampton Star spent this school year profiling five students in Ms. Tulp’s classroom, getting to know their families and their interests. The series examines the changing face of East Hampton by following a diverse group of kindergarteners from a single class at John Marshall through the school year and beyond.
Already, one of the five children has moved away.
Ms. Tulp started the school year with 18 students. Atilla Secim moved to Florida, and Sophia Herrera relocated to the Springs School.
Atilla, now 6, who speaks Turkish, Arabic, some French, and now fluent English, added to the character of Ms. Tulp’s classroom. Born in Turkey, his family relocated to East Hampton before September’s start of school, living in his aunt’s weekend house until the family established more permanent roots.
Housing prices and a brutal winter forced their hand, and they ultimately relocated in March to Fort Lauderdale, Fla., to expand their home textiles business. Over the past six years, Atilla has lived in three countries. The move meant yet another new school for Atilla, who, so far his family said, has adjusted well and is already the youngest member of the local swim team, with ages ranging from 6 to 18.
When he moved away, Ms. Tulp explained to the class that it was not like a vacation and that Atilla would not be coming back anytime soon. A close-knit group of boys took the news particularly hard.
“He still talks about it and wonders when we can see them,” said Atilla’s mother, Ayse Secim, during a recent phone call. “Whenever we go back, we’ll try and get in touch with his friends.”
Olivia Chapman, 5, woke up excited for her last day of school, wearing a printed dress, her pale blond hair with faint pink streaks tied back in a ponytail. For breakfast, she ate a bowl of Cap’n Crunch cereal. Her mother, Abby Chapman, said she allowed the treat of sugar cereal on the last day of school.
Stubborn and strong-willed, Olivia, the youngest of four children, is particularly self-reliant, her mother said.
When encountering obstacles, such as learning to read, she has persevered, and now reads simple books by herself. “She doesn’t give up,” said Ms. Tulp. “She’s very proud of herself and what she can do.”
During an outing to Herrick Park in early June, fresh from a Saturday morning T-ball game, talk quickly turned to a rotating cast of three boyfriends (though one has since moved away). Near the end of the school year, Olivia played a starfish in the kindergarten school play. She also loves eating salad and reading fairy tales.
Though she will miss seeing her friends and her teacher, summertime in the Chapman household means tennis and frequent trips to the skate park on Abraham’s Path. Aurora, Olivia’s 13-year-old sister, will look after her younger siblings this summer, with their grandmother lending a hand during the workweek.
Meanwhile, Alonso Garcia, now 6, is coming out of his shell.
“He’s also nicer and he shares a lot more,” said Valentina Sanchez, his 15-year-old sister.
Besides soccer, blocks are still a favorite, and fruit is his preferred snack. He has new best friends, Jake and Emmanuel.
His mother, aunt, and grandmother jointly run Elegant Touch, a nail salon on Railroad Avenue in East Hampton. Over the summer, his sister, Valentina, will work at the front desk, answering the telephone. Alonso will attend the nearby Y.M.C.A. day camp and play soccer in Montauk two evenings each week.
Later this summer, he plans to attend a weeklong soccer clinic in Maryland, with his parents vacationing at a nearby hotel while Alonso plays soccer for eight hours each day.
He is still a beginning reader, and his mother, Adriana Garcia, encourages him to read each night before bed to help keep him on track with the progress he’s made. Ms. Tulp urges parents to develop a daily habit of reading over the summer (even 10 to 15 minutes a day), and build in frequent trips to the library.
On Friday morning, his classmate, Madison Alvarez, 5, had butterflies in her stomach in nervous anticipation of the last day of school. For breakfast, she ate toast with Nutella and drank a glass of milk before putting on a white dress with a pink sash.
Earlier this year, the Alvarez family moved to a three-bedroom condominium near John Marshall. Previously, the foursome had been living in a guesthouse on the large East Hampton estate that Fernando Alvarez, Madison’s father, helps manage.
This summer, Madison will attend the Y.M.C.A. camp three days each week. She still wants to be a doctor and loves to swim. Math is her favorite subject, though reading is still a bit of a struggle. Pizza is her favorite thing to eat.
Antonia Alvarez, her mother, regularly volunteered in the classroom. With the start of first grade, she is hopeful that more science will be included in the curriculum. Right now Madison is particularly curious about the birth process and learning how babies are born.
Ephraim Munoz, now 6, was one of two narrators in the kindergarten play. He is a bright, diligent student, and Ms. Tulp was hopeful the experience might further draw him out.
Over the past year, Marci Vail, his mother, has noticed him becoming more and more independent. Meanwhile, the family’s living room is starting to look like a band rehearsal space with the recent addition of a drum set, a gift from his grandmother for his 6th birthday.
When asked about school during a recent trip to the dentist, Ms. Vail said, Ephrain said that he preferred learning labs, when students rotate through different activities. His dentist noted the unusual response, saying that most kids favored recess.
Ms. Vail, who plans to return to work sometime in the next year, is looking forward to spending time with her son over the summer, taking frequent trips to the park, the library, and local museums. Looking ahead to the fall, she plans to enroll him in Project Most, an after-school enrichment program. When comparing the cost of various summer camps, Ms. Vail explained that even the least expensive camp costs more for one week than an entire month of Project Most.
“It’s possibly my last summer with him, the last summer I will have completely one-on-one with him, so I want to make sure that I get some basic, important things in,” explained Ms. Vail, who plans to start with teaching Ephraim about money.
In thinking back over the year, Ms. Tulp said she hopes she imparted a deep love of learning in her students. “This is the beginning and if you don’t instill a sense that school is fun, it can be a tough road ahead.”
Back in September, many students could only identify 12 letters of the alphabet. “Now, they’re reading books with 150 words in them,” Ms. Tulp said.
Earlier this month, she had them take out their collection of writing journals and flip through each page to see their own progress.
“They can read. They can do math. They realize how much they’ve grown,” said Ms. Tulp. “It’s the biggest year with the biggest growth. We get them as babies and it’s sad at the end, to finally let them go. You almost want to keep them for another year, just so you can keep going.”