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For Gary G. King

For Gary G. King

By
Star Staff

A graveside service for Gary G. King of Miller Lane West in East Hampton, who died on Friday at Southampton Hospital, will be held on Saturday at 11 a.m. at Cedar Lawn Cemetery here. Mr. King was 69. An obituary will appear in a future issue.

Betty Schlein, Political Activist

Betty Schlein, Political Activist

April 1, 1931 - June 29, 2018
By
Star Staff

Betty Goldman Schlein, a political activist who helped found and later led the Long Island chapter of the National Organization for Women and was a founding member of Eleanor’s Legacy, an organization named for the first lady that helps recruit and train female Democratic candidates, died of a stroke at her Manhattan home on June 29. A Southampton resident as well, she was 87. 

Ms. Schlein was compelled to enter politics following the deaths of children hit by trains at unsafe railroad crossings. She was living in Merrick at the time. She soon focused on the civil rights movement and opposition to the Vietnam War. In 1968, she helped Allard Lowenstein, an antiwar activist, win election to Congress. She worked consistently to help empower women and provide them with lobbying and organization skills. 

In 1972, she became vice chairwoman of the New York State Democratic Committee, a position she used to help provide women with organizing and lobbying skills. She was appointed a top aide to Governor Hugh Carey of New York in 1978. Later, she started the Long Island Community Foundation, the Women’s Fund of Long Island, and helped restore Eleanor Roosevelt’s home, Val-Kill Cottage. 

Leading up to the Democratic National Conventions in 1976 and 1980, she worked to make sure women had equal representation. She also mentored rising female politicians, including Representative Geraldine Ferraro, the first woman to run for the vice presidency, Representative Elizabeth Holtzman, and New York City Council President Carol Bellamy. 

 In a 2003 essay posted on the Veteran Feminists of America website, she wrote, “I think I was born with a latent political gene in my DNA, but it took the women’s movement to wake that dormant drive.”

Born on April 1, 1931, in Brooklyn to Estelle and Paul Goldman, she grew up in the Manhattan Beach neighborhood and graduated from Abraham Lincoln High School. She attended Smith College before transferring to Cornell University. After receiving her degree, she moved to Washington, D.C., where she hoped to find serious work, but discovered that only secretarial jobs were available to her. Moving back to New York she earned a master’s degree in early childhood education at Columbia University’s Teachers College. 

In 1954, she wed Richard Schlein, the man to whom she would be married for 48 years, and with whom she raised three children.

Ms. Schlein is survived by Fred Weinberg, her partner for 15 years; Mr. Schlein died before her.  Other survivors are her children, Carol, of Montclair, N.J., Alan, of Los Angeles, and Michael, of Brooklyn, and four grandchildren.

The family received visitors on July 2 in Brooklyn — followed by a funeral at Mount Lebanon Cemetery in Queens, where she was buried — and on July 7 in Southampton.

Richard P. Mark, Engineer and Veteran

Richard P. Mark, Engineer and Veteran

May 13, 1930 - June 21, 2018
By
Star Staff

Richard Perry Mark, an engineer who served in the Army infantry during the Korean War, died of lung cancer at the age of 88 last Thursday at Northport (L.I.) Veterans Hospital. He had been sick for six months.

As an engineer, Mr. Mark worked in the dairy industry, including for Sealtest Dairy, Borden Dairy Company, and Breyers. He was the manager of Aiello’s Cheese in Heuvelton, N.Y., where he and his family lived for 13 years before moving to Montauk. In Heuvelton, he was a charter member of the Lions Club.

Richard Perry Mark was born on May 13, 1930, in Trenton, N.J., one of three sons of the former Dorothy Smith and Harold Mark. Two brothers died before him: Robert Mark of Carlisle, Mass., and John Mark of Brooklyn and Montauk, who just died in May.

He grew up and graduated from high school in Trenton and received a Bachelor of Science degree in mechanical engineering at the University of Vermont before serving in the Army from 1951 to 1953. He received a commendation ribbon with metal pendant for service in the Battle of Pork Chop Hill on April 17 and 18, 1953.

After the war, he returned to Trenton and took a job at an arcade in Seaside Heights, N.J., where he met his future wife, Barbara Kohout, one of the six daughters of the owner. Two of her sisters also met their husbands at the arcade, where they worked for their father.

On May 13, 1959, the two were married, and from 1966 to 1970, they lived in Massapequa before leaving for Heuvelton. He and his wife and their son John moved to Montauk in 1983. His son Richard Perry Mark Jr. died at the age of 21 in 1982.

Mr. Mark was a member of Amagansett American Legion Post 419 and a parishioner of the Amagansett Presbyterian Church. He continued his hobby of surf fishing, which he had enjoyed in younger years on the Jersey Shore, and he also had an annual checkers tournament with his brother John Mark. “They were very competitive,” his son said.

Mr. Mark was “a wonderful dad,” his son said and taught his children how to repair things around the house and, together, they would “fix boats, snowmobiles, mini-bikes, and cars.” And, he added, “he was a loving grandfather to his only grandchild, Sarah Mark,” who is 1. In addition to his son, wife, and granddaughter, many nieces and nep- hews survive.

 Mr. Mark had frequently expressed gratitude for the excellent care he received at the Northport V.A. Hospital, his family said, suggesting memorial donations for the hospital, 79 Middleville Road, Northport 11768. Also suggested for memorial gifts was the Montauk Fire Department, 12 Flamingo Avenue, Montauk 11954.

Mr. Mark was cremated. A service will take place at the Amagansett Presbyterian Church on July 7 at 1 p.m., the Rev. Donald Hammond presiding. It will be followed by a reception at the church’s Scoville Hall and, between 4 and 7 p.m., the family will receive visitors at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton.

John Ecker, 92, of Montauk Agency

John Ecker, 92, of Montauk Agency

Aug. 11, 1925 - June 25, 2018
By
Star Staff

John Ecker was 13 years old when the 1938 Hurricane struck the family restaurant near the shore of Fort Pond Bay in Montauk. In a 2012 event hosted by the East Hampton Historical Society, he recalled water surging on 80-mile-per-hour winds into their Trail’s End restaurant. At the time, people on the East End knew little about this kind of storm, but some of the Montauk developer Carl Fisher’s people, who had only recently been through one in Florida, did, and they had remarked at lunch that day that it appeared a hurricane was on the way.

Mr. Ecker, who later took over a Montauk insurance agency that would bear his name, died on Monday at the Peconic Bay Medical Center in Riverhead at the age of 92 with members of his family present. He had been ill for about 14 weeks, his family said. For many years, from the mid-1950s on, Mr. Ecker filled numerous leadership positions in local Republican politics and served on East Hampton Town governing boards.

He was born on Aug. 11, 1925, in Sheppton, Pa., to John Jacob Ecker and the former Catherine Fallon. When he was about 10, the family moved to Montauk, and he graduated from East Hampton High School in 1943. 

Almost immediately after high school, Mr. Ecker entered the Army, shipping out in October 1944, joining the 87th Infantry Division during World War II, and taking part in the Lorraine, France, campaign as an 81-millimeter mortar crewman. According to a report in The East Hampton Star from January 1945, then-Private Ecker was wounded in action in France. In March, The Star reported that Private Ecker was stateside, recuperating in a Long Island Army hospital. He was discharged as a corporal in January 1946.

After his military service, Mr. Ecker went on to graduate with a business degree from Fordham University in 1950. Returning to the area, he worked for a time at the Lester Motors auto dealership in East Hampton.

On Oct. 9, 1954, he and the former Eleanor LaVere married in Syracuse. The couple bought land on Marley Lane off Skimhampton Road in East Hampton that year, where they built a house. Known to friends and family as Mollie, Mrs. Ecker survives.

By the mid-1950s, Mr. Ecker became active in local politics, serving as the East Hampton Republican Party’s publicity chairman as the 1957 election approached, and later as its vice president. He was a member of the East Hampton Town Planning Board from 1958 to June 1960 and was on the board of directors of the East Hampton Chamber of Commerce.

Mr. Ecker was appointed an agent for the Equitable Life Assurance Society of the United States in 1958 and worked out of its Riverhead office covering the East Hampton area. He also worked for a time for the E.T. Dayton agency in East Hampton. He bought the Richard T. Gilmartin Insurance Agency in Montauk in 1964, renamed it John Ecker Insurance, and ran it until he retired in 2005.

Mr. Ecker was appointed to the East Hampton Town Board following a board member’s resignation in 1960. He won election as a town justice of the peace that November. His brother, the late Edward Ecker Sr., was later a town supervisor.

Mr. Ecker was a member of the Veterans of Foreign Wars and the American Legion. He was active at Guild Hall in East Hampton and was on the Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church parish council. He was a life member of the East Hampton Lions Club and deeply committed to its charitable projects. He also was a member of the Independent Insurance Agents Association of New York.

When not working or taking part in his many community activities, Mr. Ecker made time to watch college basketball. His team was the Duke Blue Devils, and during the 1990s he traveled often to see N.C.A.A. tournaments and other games. In one stretch he saw Duke play 45 times in five years.

In addition to Mrs. Ecker, he is survived by their children, Karen Ecker of Acton, Mass., Mary Morgan of Chandler, Ariz., John J. Ecker of Water Mill, Jacqueline Jarboe of Montauk, and Charles Ecker of Danville, Calif., and five grandchildren. A brother, Msgr. Robert J. Ecker, who lives in Coronado, Calif., and Montauk, also survives.

A funeral Mass for Mr. Ecker will be said at Most Holy Trinity in East Hampton on Saturday at 10:30 a.m. Burial will be in the church cemetery on Cedar Street in East Hampton.

Memorial donations have been suggested to Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church, 57 Buell Lane, East Hampton 11937.

Peter Whelan, 66

Peter Whelan, 66

March 14, 1952 - June 16, 2018
By
Star Staff

Peter Whelan of Noyac, a builder, sailor, musician, and photographer, died at St. Catherine of Siena Medical Center in Smithtown on June 16. Mr. Whelan, who was 66, had been diagnosed with prostate cancer last winter.

After going away for college, Mr. Whelan returned to the East End, where he would live the rest of his life, and embarked on a career as a builder. He spent the summer after graduation, along with family members and college buddies, building a cabin on a hillside in East Lyndon, Vt., that would be enjoyed by his parents and siblings for many years.

“Besides his own family house in Noyac, he was proud of his role in transforming the former Bay Street nightclub into the Bay Street Theater in Sag Harbor and the construction of a new parish hall at St. Andrew’s Roman Catholic Church, where he was a member for many years,” his family wrote. 

“He really appreciated craftsmanship and enjoyed teaching his skills to others,” said his brother John Whelan of East Hampton. “He was a mentor to me.”

Mr. Whelan grew up in East Hampton, the fourth child and oldest son of Duane and Mary Whelan, who settled in Northwest Woods in the early 1950s when the area was still sparsely inhabited and undeveloped. As a boy, growing up on the family homestead, he learned many of the traits of self-reliance that would serve him in adulthood.

Mr. Whelan caught the travel bug at a young age. In college, he was an early visitor to the People’s Republic of China and also visited India and other countries in South Asia. He acquired an old school bus while still in college and drove a group of nuns and students to Guatemala as part of one of their classes, later joking that it was a miracle they made it there and back in one piece, his family recalled. He traveled back to Central America and to Europe and took annual trips to Mexico with his family. 

Mr. Whelan also enjoyed sailing, and owned a number of sailboats. He joined family and friends in recreational and competitive sailing. He also played the guitar, harmonica, piano, and drums, and was an excellent photographer, relatives said. 

He was active at St. Andrew’s, where he taught religious education and served as the Grand Knight of the parish’s council of the Knights of Columbus. One of his favorite tasks was to help set up the Nativity scene at the intersection of Main and Madison Streets in Sag Harbor each Christmas. 

A lifelong Catholic, he also explored spirituality through his reading and travels and membership in a men’s group.

“He was a seeker; he never stopped searching and studying religions and spirituality,” said his former wife, Linley Pennebaker Hagen.

Mr. Whelan was born on March 14, 1952, and attended East Hampton schools. He received a bachelor’s degree in history from St. John’s University in Collegeville, Minn., and later a master of arts in Asian studies from New York University.

He and Ms. Pennebaker were married on Aug. 22, 1981. The marriage ended in divorce. 

Mr. Whelan is survived by their four children, Heather Whelan of Chicago, Ben Whelan of Sag Harbor, Jeremy Whelan of Charlotte, N.C., and Nicholas Whelan of Sag Harbor.

Besides his brother John, he leaves 10 other siblings: Margaret Eaton of East Montpelier, Vt., Susana Kelly of North Sea and Highland Beach, Fla., Maria Whelan of Chicago, Rebecca O’Herron of Newburgh, N.Y., David Whelan of North Haven, Anne Mullins of Orland Park, Ill., Martha Robinson of Evansville, Ind., Elizabeth Kotz of Bridgehampton, Catherine Foley of Montauk, and Joseph Whelan of Bristol, R.I.

A funeral Mass was celebrated by the Rev. Andrew Blake at St. Andrew’s Church on Friday. Mr. Whelan was cremated. 

The family has suggested memorial donations be made to Friends in Adoption, P.O. Box 238, Poultney, Vt. 05764.

John Rutkowski, of John’s Pancake House and the Montauk Movie

John Rutkowski, of John’s Pancake House and the Montauk Movie

Feb. 2, 1926 - June 21, 2018
By
Star Staff

John F. Rutkowski, the former owner of John’s Pancake House and the Montauk Movie and a Navy veteran who served in World War II and the Korean War, died of cancer on June 21 at Stony Brook Southampton Hospital. He was 92 and had been ill for two years. 

Born on Feb. 2, 1926, in Jersey City to the former Adolphina Zmijewska and Stanislaw Rutkowski, he moved with his family to East Hampton when he was 5 years old. During World War II while a student at East Hampton High School, he was drafted into the Navy and later received a general equivalency diploma while in the Naval Reserve. He worked at odd jobs before being called back to serve in the Korean War. 

It was while working as a bartender at Bill’s Inn, a popular Montauk hangout, that he met Rose Spano, the woman to whom he was married in 1961.

Making his first foray as a restaurant owner in the 1950s, he opened Johnny’s Luncheonette and Stationery in Montauk. 

In 1967, he moved from East Hampton to the hamlet and started Mr. John’s Pancake and Steak House, which he owned until about 1980.  The eatery, which remains a presence on Main Street, eventually dropped the word “steak.” The following year, Mr. Rutkowksi bought the Montauk Movie, which his family continued to run until it closed in 2014. 

Mr. Rutkowski is survived by his wife, his children, David, Thomas, and Elizabeth Rutkowski, all of Montauk, and two grandchildren. There was no service. 

A blessing of Mr. Rutkowski’s ashes will take place at St. Therese of Lisieux Catholic Church in Montauk before they are buried at Fort Hill Cemetery. Donations in his memory have been suggested to the Montauk Ambulance Company, 12 Flamingo Avenue, Montauk 11954, or to Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, 1275 York Avenue, New York 10065, or giving.mskcc.org.

Nicholas Sennefelder

Nicholas Sennefelder

Sept. 9, 1967 - June 27, 2018
By
Star Staff

Nicholas Sennefelder, a former Montauk resident, died on June 27 in Abingdon, Va., of cancer. He was 50 and had been ill for 18 months.

Mr. Sennefelder was born in Brooklyn on Sept. 9, 1967, one of six children of Maureen and Tom Sennefelder of Montauk, who survive.

He grew up in Montauk, graduating from East Hampton High School with the class of 1985. He worked as a carpenter after graduating, and in 2001 moved to Damascus, Va.

In addition to his parents, four of Mr. Sennefelder’s siblings survive: Donna Bennett of Montauk, Victoria Iorio and Ricardo Rivera, both of Shirley, and Vincent Pagan of Kokomo, Ind. His brother Mark Pagan died last year.

The Rev. Tom Murray of St. Therese of Lisieux Catholic Church of Montauk will preside at a memorial service for Mr. Sennefelder on Aug. 3 at 11 a.m. The family has suggested memorial donations for Freedom Fighter Outdoors, an organization started by charter boat captains to help wounded war veterans, 2436 North Federal Highway, Lighthouse Point, Fla. 33064.

For Cecilia R. Rarrick

For Cecilia R. Rarrick

By
Star Staff

A funeral Mass for Cecilia Roxbury Rarrick of Montauk and East Hampton, who died on Sunday, will be said on Saturday at 10:30 a.m. at St. Therese of Lisieux Catholic Church in Montauk, with burial immediately afterward at Fort Hill Cemetery, also in Montauk. A reception will follow. She was 91. 

An obituary will appear in a future issue.

For Barbara Kantor

For Barbara Kantor

By
Star Staff

A wake for Barbara Kantor, a part-time resident of Montauk, will be held today from 4 to 5:30 p.m. at the Hannemann Funeral Home at 88 South Broadway in Nyack, N.Y. A service will follow at 5:30, also at the funeral home. 

Ms. Kantor, who was 84, died on Friday of advanced-stage Parkinson’s disease and dementia. In addition to Montauk, she had lived in North Palm Beach, Fla., Manhattan, and West Nyack, N.Y. Burial, which will be private, will be at Fort Hill Cemetery in Montauk. 

An obituary will appear in a future issue. 

William E. Segelken Jr.

William E. Segelken Jr.

Oct. 31, 1969 - June 8, 2018
By
Star Staff

William E. Segelken Jr. died on June 8 at home on Oakview Highway in East Hampton of cirrhosis. He was 48.

According to Mercedes Dekkers, his former partner and the mother of his three children, Mr. Segelken was “a beautiful surfer and a talented carpenter, with hands of gold.” Surfing buddies said “he was just a good guy who always seemed happy,” no matter what else might have been going on. 

He was born in Patchogue on Oct. 31, 1969, one of two children of William Segelken and the former Patricia LaMarco. His sister, Tracy Ann Segelken, a public safety dispatcher who was one of the first female firefighters in the Springs Fire Department, died in 2016.

When Mr. Segelken was a toddler, the family moved to East Hampton, where his father was a town police officer who retired in 1996 as a detective captain. The younger Mr. Segelken went through the East Hampton school system, attended college for a year or so, and then spent a year traveling. He was a skilled carpenter and could build anything, Ms. Dekkers said. He also enjoyed surfing the jetties in East Hampton and at Montauk, playing golf at the Sag Harbor Golf Course, drawing, and fishing.

“He really had a heart of gold but was sick,” said Ms. Dekkers, from whom he had been apart for many years. Their three children, Aspen, 18, Morgan, 16, and Reiley, 14, survive, as does his father, who lives in Georgetown, S.C. His mother died in 2003. 

Mr. Segelken was cremated. The family received visitors on June 14 at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton. A priest from Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church in East Hampton presided at a short service there as well.