All I want for Labor Day is for my power to come back on. It’s my turn this week to write this column and though I have several columns waiting to be published, how could I not write about the hurricane? I’m told we could be without power for 6 to 10 days!

    I live in a neighborhood that is right near the Montauk Lighthouse, which means we’re on the most eastern tip of Long Island, the windiest area in Montauk. Our power went off on Friday night, actually, at about 8 p.m. just when my husband and I were sitting down for dinner and two days before Hurricane Irene was scheduled to hit our area.

    It’s as if the Long Island Power Authority were giving us a test run. They said it would be on by 10 p.m., but that didn’t happen. I got up at 1 a.m. to hit the bathroom and bing! the lights went on.

    I stupidly thought that since the lines were already fixed and hopefully secured we wouldn’t lose power again when Irene came to visit, but on Sunday morning the lights sputtered and went out.

    The wind was howling like I’ve never heard and we could hear the ocean churning up from a mile away. LIPA is saying it could take days, if not weeks, to restore the power out here. We have no phones or cellphone service, either. Just check on us once in a while, okay?

    It’s amazing to realize how spoiled we are. You learn that when you lose power. I walk into a room and immediately flick the light switch and nothing happens. I open the refrigerator and everything’s starting to warm, and smell. My precious ice cream is melting as quickly as the witch in “The Wizard of Oz” when she was doused with water. I’m reading books and writing this by the sunlight that is streaming through my bedroom window.

    My hair is a mass of frizz, knotted and matted! There is no coffee or toast in the mornings. I can’t vacuum the dog hair from my carpets. Dishes are piling in the sink because I have forgotten how to wash them — the dishwasher usually does that. There are lanterns and candles in jars, tapers and votives littering my coffee table in the living room. I’m hoarding matches. And I’m bored.

    All over my neighborhood cars are parked with surfboards on roofs or stuffed into hatchbacks. Cars with surfers in them are driving up and down our usually quiet block all day long looking for an access to the best waves this summer. They have been blocked from using their traditional spots. Since almost everyone who lives here in our area is a surfer or has a surfer in the family, most of us don’t mind. Vicariously, I know the thrill of a good wave.

    The grounds around the Montauk Lighthouse and Turtle Cove have been blocked since Saturday by state park barriers and police. I imagine, although since I don’t have a phone I really am guessing, that the water is unsafe because of the huge waves. But what a drag for those of us who don’t surf to not be able to drive to the Lighthouse and see the ocean at its roughest.

    I adopted a kitten on Friday, a little black female that needed a home. We named her Storm. I always had cats but one of my daughters is allergic so I had to hold off for a while. She was home for the summer but has since left to go back to Hawaii. We have mice in winter and I felt a cat could help keep them from scurrying from my woodpile into my warm house, plus I love a cat snuggled on my lap. Storm was frightened by the storm, the howling of the wind and the branches that scraped our windows like in a horror movie. She’s still hiding under a bed, but I hope she joins our family soon.

    I had two funny things happen to me during Ms. Irene. First was I stood next to Julianne Moore in Herb’s Montauk Market. I have wanted to apologize to Ms. Moore for two years, ever since she narrated a ballet performance at the Montauk Playhouse Community Center. Playhouse officials had called me and asked me to come and take pictures of her for this paper. And so I did but I got there late after it was announced that pictures weren’t allowed. As I snapped away a man finally came over to me and said, “You know you’re being very rude. They said no pictures.”

    And instead of my telling him where to go or to explain that I was with the house I just humbly sat down and then slithered out. I was mortified because I abhor rudeness and am not rude at all. So Ms. Moore, I didn’t bother you in Herb’s, but I apologize. I didn’t know.

    As the wind blew ferociously on Sunday afternoon I took my Brodie Boy, a sweet golden doodle, out to play ball. I threw the ball and he fetched until a car pulled up on my side lawn. A good-looking guy, one whom my husband has yelled at me about for telling everyone how good looking he is, approached me to see how he could get back to Camp Hero through all the police blockades. I told him a secret path and then realized he was an actor from a show I used to love that was recently taken off the air.

    The excitement of hurricanes is one that can’t be avoided. You never know how it’s going to turn out. Except for power losses and a lot of downed trees, we made out okay this time. So goodnight, Irene, and may our paths never cross again.

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    Janis Hewitt is a senior writer at The Star.

    A crew from Town and Country magazine was here a couple of weeks ago, and, at the end of the day, the young reporter appeared at my door.

    I confessed right off that I had spent most of my working life, 44 years, at The Star, that I had only quit twice, and that I, now in the 2,200 range columnwise, had only been censored twice — “Points Of View” on the pursuit of happiness and on Jesus and Mary Magdalene, which the redactors feared would, in the case of the first, alienate the gay community, and, in the case of the second, alienate the Catholics. Though why only them, I don’t know. Rather than biblical figures, it had more to do with celebrity worship and my antipathy for it than anything else.

    Inevitably, I was asked, along that line, about the Beales, who I thought were traduced by overweening officials and a prurient press, of which I am, of course, an outlying member.

    “One quote I can give you,” I said. “I remember Edie Beale saying at the time, ‘Oh, Mr. Graves. East Hampton is so beautiful on the outside, but so ugly on the inside.’ Or words to that effect.”

    I’ve since thought about what she said — true certainly when applied to her and her mother’s case — in light of the many examples of community-wide efforts here over the years in which the grief of those who have been particularly battered by Fate has been, if not lessened, at least conjoined with the knowledge that East Hamptoners generally do care for one another and wish each other well.

    I said I didn’t know why the collective we were racked periodically with foaming-at-the-mouth seizures of self-righteousness, but it seemed to be so. “Maybe there’s something in the water. . . . Very soon after the Beale affair, my landlady-to-be’s nursery school was raided. She walked when the mothers testified n justice court that it was not a moneymaking concern.”

    He asked what the quotes on my windowsill said. It was the first time I’d looked at them in a long time. “One says to stay out of Iraq,” I said, looking back at him. “One says to stay out of Iran . . . and this one, by Peter DeVries, who was generally known as a humorous writer, says it all.”

    “ ‘The quest for Meaning is foredoomed. Human life ‘means’ nothing. But that is not to say that it is not worth living. What does a Debussy Arabesque ‘mean,’ or a rainbow or a rose? A man delights in all these, knowing himself to be no more — a wisp of music and a haze of dreams dissolving against the sun. . . . It seemed from all this that uppermost among human joys is the negative one of restoration: not going to the stars, but learning that one may stay where one is.’ ”

    “Well,” I said, with a shock of recognition and with a sense of affirmation, “that’s what I’ve done!”

    This summer will go down, in my opinion, as the one in which the affluent finally burst the South Fork’s seams — and maybe the North Fork’s, too.

    Plenty of part-time residents here, or year-round summer people (as a friend described her own tribe years ago), are down-to-earth members of the middle class who live in relatively simple houses on wooded, quarter or half-acre lots. But from all appearances the East End is being defined by those who have redefined luxury in multimillion-dollar houses, used only occasionally, and those who are ready, willing, and able to put down six figures for a short seasonal rental.

    Tickets to glitzy, big-name benefits are selling like hotcakes, I’m told, but it seems to me that many of those who are so visible here are generally uninterested in hearing the specific problems and concerns of the community: the growing need for food pantries, the effects of the recession on the town, not just the nation.

    The Hamptons are where you see people at play, intent on making the most of what their money can buy; are they really fiddling while Rome burns, or is this a misapprehension? (Maybe, on the hush-hush, the visitors you see arriving via mega-yacht or strolling about with strings of luxury-goods shopping bags draped from their wrists are, indeed, making donations to, say, Meals on Wheels or the volunteer fire departments . . . but why do I doubt it?)

    Only the first week of August, and the pace gets more frantic. The gourmet markets are more crowded than ever, even though prices are astronomical. The number of standing-room-only events at Guild Hall has surprised its tab-keepers. And, as the tabloids like to report, more young partiers are heading to Montauk, where the scene has overflowed from one really hot spot to everal others. Everywhere you look another gallery has sprung up, so I suppose artwork is selling. There’s not one pop music festival but a couple, not one glossy magazine, but, well, you count them.

    We had a family party in the backyard on Sunday. I had thought about keeping up with the Joneses, of going to our finest food shops for goodies. In the end, though, it was turkey burgers and hot dogs with a few salads for good measure, along with a birthday cake from King Kullen and cupcakes from Duncan Hines.

    One of my children, a grown man now, pointed out that there were three generations out on the lawn. He was nostalgic, he said, as he watched one of the youngest of us off by herself trying a few improvisational yoga positions. Can you remember, he asked me, when you were a kid and lolling on the grass was what summer was about?

    With the calendar flipping from July to August, changes come to the beach. Even before sunrise I can hear the difference in the wind, now coming from the north. It is a light wind, though, only a hint of what is to come as summer gives way to fall and then to winter.

    In the house, our oldest child was packed off to sleep-away camp for the very first time this week, another sign of time’s passing. Skittering hordes of sandpipers and plovers have been back for several weeks now, their numbers increasing each day as they arrive from breeding places in the far north.

    These small birds move through the seasons quickly, nesting in spring, staying only briefly in their tundra haunts before winging south, stopping along the coast in the usual places to gorge on the shrimp-like things and worms that live at the water’s edge. In the distance they seem to rise and fall like snow, flying out over the bay for a moment without apparent purpose, then returning to the same patch of sand.

    The very southernmost sweep of Gardiner’s Bay has been teeming with life of one sort or another this year. This is in stark contrast with, but perhaps related to, the savage and sweeping devastation of the late December storm that churned the beach and pushed the dune landward a dozen feet in some places. Huge schools of sand eels rise each day before dawn, drawing in predators above and below.

    Terns show up just as there is light enough to see them, hovering along the edge of the beach. It was pointed out to me by a brother-in-law who notices such things that, though their nesting sites were elsewhere, young-of-the-year terns assemble on the beach, waiting to be fed by the more able adults.

    Getting Adelia ready for camp has been reminiscent of the terns’ feeding arrangements, if somewhat more complicated. There have been bags to pack, things to buy and ship in advance. One morning this week, she will be sent on her way, in a van to New Hampshire, our own little bird, making her very first flight

    My sweet little Volvo is so lucky. It has an odometer that measures how far it has gone since it was made, like all cars. And then it has two “trip” odometers. If I press the odometer button twice, I can get two other readings: for example, how many miles we have driven since God knows when, and how many miles it is to Riverhead.

    But the great thing is, if I hold the button down on the trip odometers, the car will reset them to zero.

    Too many times I find myself on an unwanted trip in my brain. I know I’m in trouble when I start to have conversations with people not present, telling them off, loudly, in my car.

    Did you ever have a ferocious argument in the car with a person who wasn’t there, and then when you realized that the driver in the next car was staring at you, pretended you were singing along with a radio that wasn’t on? I have.

    I’ve always thought it would be just dandy to be able to tap a finger in my ear, push the trip odometer button, and reset to zero, to have that person or situation just register as a blip, a tenth of a mile, on the vast odometer of my life.

    For some reason, even though I was brought up with a lot of love and support, it didn’t resonate with me the way an unkind word could cut me down. Compliments were quickly forgotten, but one criticism could stay with me for 30 years.

    As I’ve grown older, I’ve been able to let a lot of stuff go, simply because it isn’t healthy for me. It’s like drinking the poison and waiting for someone else to die. And everyone has something good in them, the potential for enlightenment, the capacity to change at any moment. It’s better for me, much better, if I try to practice compassion rather than criticism.

    I need a lot of practice. But I’m getting better.

    When Michelangelo was in his 80s, he scribbled “ancora imparo” in the margins of one of his journals. It loosely translates to “I am still learning.”

    I think I’m starting to understand what he meant, because the older I get, the less I know. I knew everything when I was in my 20s. Now, not so much.

    I have to empty myself out every day and start over again. I have to let go of my expectations of what Other People Will Do and try to approach life with curiosity and a twinkle in my eye.

    And when I choose to fill up my core with joy, acceptance, humor, and compassion, and let go of all that comfortable negativity, the “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” have no hold on me.

    I feel like Wonder Woman, but with much bigger thighs.

    As long as I remember that I can reset my trip button any time I want.

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    Bridget LeRoy is a reporter at The Star.

    On a brilliant afternoon at Mecox Bay, while one of our friends made lunch, the other offered to take my husband and me for a spin in their Boston Whaler. We three walked barefoot to the end of the dock for a short, unserious outing.

    Feeling like 12-year-olds on the lake at camp, we shed our septuagenarian identities. We were practically singing, we were so happy. For about 15 minutes, we followed a flotilla of swans — equal in elegance to the estates along the bay.

    Soon, the sound of the engine changed. When it stopped, our host tossed an aluminum oar to my husband and said, “Paddle.”

    At the nearest bulkhead, we tied up and went to get help, as if this were a perfectly ordinary and sane thing to do on a Saturday in Water Mill. But wait, it’s no longer precisely Water Mill; it’s part of The Hamptons, a name that obliterates the distinct charm of each village; a name that merges them into a conglomerate.

    The Hamptons, home to celebrities — some of whom are first rate at making themselves well known rather than well known for making themselves first rate.

    The Hamptons, where it’s impossible to find a shoe repair shop. Or, for that matter, any of the ordinary services enjoyed by those who have lived and vacationed here from the end of the colonial era to the beginning of . . . The Hamptons.

    Nevertheless, our friend, a Mecox resident for decades, and my husband and I, who have been local homeowners for 40 years, thinking we were in territory we knew, climbed out of the boat.

    All of us were without wallets or cellphones or shoes. I can see that we might have appeared crazy to anyone who goes down to the sea in ships; but, to us, this was a toy boat in a bathtub.

    We hoisted ourselves onto the bulkhead, amazed that our well-used bones could accomplish this feat and still stand upright. We approached a house with six separate entrances resembling those in a row of town houses. Four sports cars were placed like compass points on a circular driveway. “Oh, good, someone must be home.”

    I suggested we call out, so as not to surprise anyone, especially a dog! “Hello! Hall-ooo-ooo.” Through a screen door, we saw a plush but empty sitting room. We continued to call.

    After 10 minutes, another door opened and a handsome man with white hair, a white mustache, and sky-blue eyes emerged. A dark apron was tied around his slim waist. Its bib protected an expensive blue-and-white-striped shirt with a starched collar. He was the butler, he said, and in just a few minutes, Brian would be coming to help us.

    “Please, we’ve been waiting for a while. Could you call a taxi for us, so we can get some gas and motor off?”

    “No,” he said, “I’m afraid not. You’ll have to wait for Brian.”

    “Our friend’s wife will worry. She expected us back for lunch half an hour ago.”

    “Sorry,” he said. “You can’t leave the premises until security has a chance to check you.”

    Security? We’re neighbors. We told him our names and our host’s address, directly across the cove. We apologized for intruding. We just wanted to fix our problem: no gas.

    “I’m sorry,” he said, quite genuinely. “I truly am, but now you’re here and now you’ll have to do things our way.”

    Another man, sweating in his tie and jacket, raced toward us, demanding, “Who are you and just what are you doing here and how did you get in?”

    We told our story again. On his walkie-talkie, he discussed it with Brian. He hurried us to the end of the driveway, telling the butler to keep us there until he returned. Then, quite abruptly, he jogged off.

    My husband nudged me, patted his hip, and gestured toward the departing jogger. I noticed a bulge. My husband whispered, “Gun!” This rude fellow was packing heat! Was this a movie or my life? Security? I felt extremely insecure.

    The butler assured us that the addled interrogator was only an assistant to Brian. Brian will take care of everything. By now, Brian had become purely mythological. No one, I’m sure, awaited Zeus with more fervor than ours, waiting for Brian.

    In his charming French accent, the butler apologized for his co-worker’s demand that my escorts and I scurry along the gravel in bare feet. Then he added, “You came at the worst possible time. The owner is in residence. You really don’t want to know who he is or where you are. You have no idea what you stepped into.”

    “No, no,” I said. “You’re right. I really don’t want to know. I just want to go home. Please, call us a taxi.”

    “Sorry, I can’t.”

    By now, I was sure my blood pressure was about to blow a hole in one of my veins.

    “Well,” he said, “I don’t care who knows, so I’m going to tell you anyway.” He smiled like a good friend who’s about to tell you something no one else will. “It’s _____ _____’s house,” he said with great pride.

    Then, his cellphone (which he wouldn’t let us use to call a taxi) rang. I leaned against my husband and whispered, “Who is _____ _____? I never heard of him.”

    “Shh,” he said. “Tell you later.”

    “Now!” I commanded. “Right now!”

    “Okay, okay. He’s the C.E.O. of ________. Probably one of the richest men in America. A billionaire many times over.”

    Some people know the statistics for every professional athlete, even gladiators in the Fortune 500 League. Numbers on the big board of Wall Street’s Coliseum are memorized with the same zeal as those on the scoreboard of each major sports stadium.

    At last, Brian! He’s real. He’s smiling. He’s friendly, actually. He said that another thug — or did he say “man” — would take us to the nearest gas station to get the right mix for the boat so we could leave the way we came, and fast! We told him that we needed to go home to get money for gas.

    “Don’t worry. We’ll take care of everything. We want to help you. We want you to get out of here as soon as possible, before the owner knows you’ve been here. It’s taken us so long because we were already on another surveillance when you arrived. We saw you on our cameras, but we couldn’t come right away.”

    No wonder The Hamptons are referred to as a war zone. In the summer, especially, simultaneous invasions overwhelm the troops.

    The butler called the driver. “Listen, these people are elderly. You’ve got to have some respect. You can’t just keep them here. It’s hot. They’re tired. They don’t have shoes.”

    Elderly! And here I was feeling so athletic, hoisting myself onto the bulkhead!

    The driver appeared and told us to get in the car; it didn’t sound inviting. He gave each of us a bottle of cold water and berated us for being out in a boat without phones or money or ID. As a cop from New York City, out here on a private security gig, he informed us that if we were in New York, he would throw us in jail. “That’s the law!” Like a big brother half our age, he advised us never to be without ID again.

    By this time, I was truly miserable. I felt kidnapped, held against my will in a car. I said I wish I could go home. My husband asked, “Would you please take my wife home, so she doesn’t have to deal with the boat again? Maybe it won’t start up. Maybe it will take a while to resolve things.”

    “Sorry,” said our straight-out-of-“The Godfather” chauffeur, “my instructions are to take you to the gas station and back to your boat. Nowhere else.”

    When we returned to where it is we don’t want to know we are, which belongs to him whose name we also don’t want to know, everyone was smiling and nice to us. “We’re so sorry. You just can’t be too careful these days.”

    They explained that their boss, who has gates and armed guards and cameras and who-knows-what-else, feels vulnerable to an attack by sea.

    We three elders in our baseball caps and bare feet probably met the criterion for his most terrifying fantasy. Meantime, his protectors must have checked our names. Apparently, we did not appear on a list of the most wanted. Nor were we on a roster of Navy Seals.

    The two tough guys filled up the gas tank. They helped us to our seats with the respect and care elderly people like us suddenly appreciated. They started the engine. Like twin James Bonds, they jumped from the boat onto the bulkhead in one smooth motion. They managed to do all the dirty work without mussing their hair or soiling their jackets. They wished us well. Up on land, above us, waving, they almost looked like cadets, saluting us for a job well done.

    “We’ll return with money for the gas!” we promised.

    “No. No. Please.”

    “Go home. Please, don’t bother to come back.”

    These good neighbors, without expecting anything in return, gave us three bottles of cold water and $6.09 worth of gas. Where else in the world could someone receive such treatment?

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    Fran Castan taught writing and literature at the School of Visual Arts in New York for 25 years. She is the author of "The Widow's Quilt," a book of poems, and "Venice: City That Paints Itself," a collection of her poems and paintings by her husband, Lewis Zacks.

    I had to go to the post office two Tuesdays ago to get the mail for the office. Russell Bennett usually goes but had no car, so I offered. I opened our box, extracted all of the mail, and was headed to the mail counter to pay for some postage-due receipts. The gentleman who was also headed to the counter held the door open for me. It was Eli Wallach!

    I said, “Thank you very much,” and then stood in line behind him. He was dressed impeccably and was carrying a cane, although he didn’t seem to need it. I leaned over to him and said that I had seen him in a reading at Guild Hall last year or the year before, and how much I had enjoyed it. He told me that he was doing another one on Aug. 5, reading excerpts from a play by his good friend Tennessee Williams.

    I said that I was going to go back to the office to see if I could still get some tickets, then proceeded to tell him how much I enjoyed him in the movie “The Holiday,” with Kate Winslet. And he told me that she was getting divorced.

    The line at the post office was not moving, no one at all at any of the three counters, but I didn’t care, I was talking with Eli Wallach! I only had to pay for some postage dues, which I would not normally have waited to pay for that day, as the line was at a standstill, but it is not every day that Eli Wallach is in front of you at the post office.

    He told me that he was 95, has been married to Anne Jackson for 64 years and that they have three children. He also told me that he had been in Tennessee Williams’s plays “Camino Real” and “The Rose Tattoo” and that he is currently in two movies that are still in theaters, “Wall Street: Money Never Sleeps” and “The Ghost Writer.”

    As the line started moving forward, the women behind me started to get involved in our conversation, each choosing their favorite movies and plays that he had been in. He responded to everyone with funny comments and anecdotes about his co-stars and directors. Sadly, he reached the counter with the gentleman who accompanied him.

    I took care of my postal business and we both left the post office at the same time, as he held the door for me again on our way out. All the women were waving and saying, “Goodbye, Eli!” I had a grin on my face all the way back to the office. What a great trip to the post office, the best ever. I immediately e-mailed Barbara-Jo Howard at Guild Hall to ask if there were still any tickets to the show on Friday. She e-mailed me back to say that there would be two tickets with my name on them at the box office. How exciting!

    I called my friend Rori, who is an actress and a theater person; we made plans to go, and that Friday found ourselves watching a great reading. The cast — Mercedes Ruehl, Justine Lupe, Vincent Piazza, and Harris Yulin — was amazing, and they saved the best for last — Eli!

    It was a wonderful tribute to his good friend Tennessee Williams, who would have turned 100 on March 26. Needless to say, Mr. Wallach received a standing ovation. Everyone loves Eli! And, by the way, he will also be at Guild Hall on Aug. 27 at 8 p.m. for the Night of Stars celebrating Guild Hall’s 80th birthday. I’m not going to miss it!

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    Jane Bimson is an advertising representative for The Star.

    When the thought crossed my mind well before my family headed out to the Sag Harbor carnival last week to get a fishbowl ready, I should have acted on the impulse. Instead, we returned with a bag of three goldfish from one of the games of chance and had no place to put them.

    Chlorine-laced water from the tap does not really make a hospitable home for even this hardy breed. It was lucky, I suppose, that I had a small, unused tank and a bottle of water treatment from the pet store tucked away. So, before I went to bed, I set up what would be the fishes’ new habitat. Unfortunately, Evvy, who is 7, named each scaly new friend before she turned in.

    I fell asleep with the fish still in their plastic bag, though I had opened the top and clipped the bag to the side of the tank. In the morning there were but two. Actually, there were still three, but one was no longer moving. Into the trash it went. Evvy, used to fish mortality by this point, asked what had happened to Snoopy, or whatever its name had been, but was less upset than I had imagined she would be.

    At the carnival, kids and parents crowded around the goldfish game. The harried, ice-eyed guy who ran the booth looked ready to crack at any moment. He sold baskets of Ping-Pong balls for $5, which were to be tossed toward a low table covered with small-mouthed fishbowls.

    Winners took home fish in bags of two or three; there were plastic tanks available for a couple of dollars, and fish food. I wondered how many of the fish would survive until the next day.

    The odds are not good for carnival fish. We have seen them lost under a car seat never to be heard from again. Some, like Evvy’s short-kept Snoopy, perish quickly. Others, like the one that lived for several years and whose name I forget, are found on a bedroom floor and returned to their tank, but they never recover.

    Now, several days later, Evvy’s two remaining fish from the recent winnings seem to be doing well enough. Lisa, her mother, wants them moved from their spot near the cappuccino maker, however, something I will need to attend to. Time will tell how they do long term. If they don’t make it, there’s always next year’s basket of balls to be thrown.

    Having taken a peek at Geoff Gehman’s memoir before it went to press, before it went to print last week, I ran through the office saying I had been canonized.

    But, as Geoff later correctly said in an e-mail, in order to be canonized you’ve got to be dead.

    Damn. There’s no way we can get around it? Oh well, I’ll demur then when it comes to sanctification. Though it is nice to know that I once led a younger reader to think that you could have fun in relating facts, or at least in relating alleged facts. I do remember in recounting the theft at Truman Capote’s that I’d been dismayed by all the “allegedlys” Ev Rattray stuck in. They kind of broke up the rhythm, but they were necessary, I suppose, to fend off any claims that we might have been having too much fun.

    As for fun, a photographer from one of the big city dailies, who saw how enthusiastically I was covering Norman Mailer’s “Maidstone,” recommended that I eschew visions of journalistic grandeur in favor of having fun out here.

    And so I did, and not to my regret, though I had to be saved from fun three times — by Barbara Johnson, who took me in as a star boarder following a divorce, by Ev Rattray, who changed my beat from bored meetings to sports (what I call the joy department), and by Mary, who has said I’m the first man who waved to her in East Hampton.

    I remember when that was. I was running down Abraham’s Path one morning, by the softball field, when I saw her driving up the street. She waved back. Lucky me.

    That was some 27 years ago, and though she, a single mother then, put me off for a while, not wanting to risk loving again, I clung to my own invincible surmise and, in time, we leaped feet first into the unknown in the Quaker cemetery on Shelter Island as the twins, who had partaken of M&M wafers, grinned and said, chocolate at the edges of their mouths, “Kiss the bride.”

    That was on the first Sunday of March, 1985, and though we were formally married by the late Sheppard Frood in our backyard five months later, on Aug. 22, we agree that we plighted our troth when we married ourselves.

    I still wave to her when I set off in the morning and she’s at the window in the computer room. And she waves back.

    Lucky me.

    “Welcome. You have reached the customer assistance center for National Grid. . . . The estimated wait time to speak to a representative is 10 minutes or less. . . . At the end of this call, your representative may ask you to provide the answers to two short questions about the service we provided you.”

    Seven minutes, 15 seconds later:

    “Can I have your account number?”

    “I don’t have my account number with me. I’m returning your call.”

    “Without your account number, I cannot talk to you about your account.”

    “You just called me, left a message, asked me to call you back.”

    “Without your account number . . .”

    “I know my name. I know my address. I know my mother’s maiden name.”

    “We have security issues.”

    “I know the name of my first teacher. And the first girl I kissed. They aren’t the same person, by the way.”

    “I’m glad to hear that, but that doesn’t get me into your account.”

    “Can I ask about payments in general? Not about my payment.”

    “Sure.”

    “How much does it cost to pay a bill with a credit card?”

    “The fee is $2.25 for first $600 or less. And an additional $2.25 for anything over $600.01.”

    “So a thousand-dollar bill — just hypothetically, not my bill — would cost an additional $4.50?”

    “Yes.”

    “Can I pay my bill now?”

    “No.”

    “Why?”

    “You don’t have your account number.”

    “But I’m paying the bill, giving you money, giving you my credit card number. How can you lose? I’m taking all the chances.”

    “I cannot do that. Do you have any other questions?”

    “Yes. Why do you charge $4.50 for paying a bill on time?”

    “Because you are using a credit card.”

    “I just paid six other bills with a credit card and no one else charged a fee.”

    “If you pay by check, there’s no fee.”

    “Doesn’t it cost everybody more if I write a check and mail it to you and someone has to deliver it and you have to open the envelope and sort it and deposit the check into your account? Isn’t a credit card faster and cheaper and greener for all of us?”

    “We don’t make the rules. Western Union does.”

    “Western Union? They still in business?”

    “They are in the third-party business.”

    “Third party? I missed the first two.”

    “They take care of our credit card payments.”

    “Western Union?”

    “Yes, they handle all the credit card payments for National Grid.”

    “Why does a utility have a third-party payment system?”

    “National Grid is not a utility.”

    “It’s not?”

    “You are confusing us with LIPA.”

    “I am?”

    “We have the same phone number.”

    “You do?”

    “I could look up your LIPA account as well as your National Grid — if you had your account number.”

    “You could?”

    “Do you have your LIPA account number?”

    “Maybe. I just walked into the restaurant and I am looking through my bills.”

    “Restaurant? What restaurant?”

    “My restaurant. The restaurant that owes you the money.”

    “You have a commercial account?”

    “Yes.”

    “Why didn’t you say that?”

    “I didn’t know it made a difference.”

    “If you had said it was a commercial account, the fee system is different.”

    “Really? Credit card payments for commercial accounts cost more to process than for residential accounts?”

    “We don’t make the rules.”

    “I know. Western Union does.”

    “I am looking up fees for commercial accounts. Hold, please.”

    I listen to a piano figure repeat for 3 minutes, 35 seconds. It is hypnotic. Good thing I am not driving.

    “Hello?”

    “Yes, I am still here. I liked the music.”

    “For payment with credit card for a commercial account, the fee is $7.95 for the first $1,000 and $50 for anything over $1000.01 up to $2,500.”

    “Really?”

    “Yes sir.”

    “Fifty dollars?”

    “That’s right.”

    “It’s not late or anything.”

    “A late fee would make it more.”

    “What if the bill is over $2,500?”

    “For anything between $2,500.01 and $5,000, that fee would be $225.”

    “Really? $225? That’s almost a 10-percent surcharge. Doesn’t it take the same time and energy to receive $1,000 as it does $2,000?”

    “We don’t make the rules, sir . . .”

    “I know. Western Union.”

    “And to pay a bill between $10,000.01 and $20,000, the fee is $425.”

    “That’s awfully steep for paying a utility bill.”

    “I told you, National Grid is not a utility.”

    “Right. I forgot. It’s a private company.”

    “I think it’s a public company.”

    “So I can invest in National Grid?”

    “I believe so.”

    “On the New York Stock Exchange?”

    “I don’t think so. It’s in England.”

    “Wait. National Grid is English?”

    “Not exactly English. National Grid is a multinational corporation with headquarters in England.”

    “Kind of a misleading name, wouldn’t you say?”

    “I wouldn’t say.”

    “Is LIPA an American outfit?”

    “I can transfer you to the Long Island Power Authority.”

    “Great. Thank you.”

    “Hold on, please.”

    There are no short questions about the service that was provided. I listen to piano music for 2 minutes, 45 seconds.

    “LIPA. How can I help you?”

    “Hello, LIPA. Are you an American company?”

    “Yes we are.”

    “Are you a utility?”

    “Yes we are.”

    “The same utility that overcharged their customers $231 million and caused the New York State Senate to demand an oversight committee overnight?”

    “How can I assist you?”

    “I’d like to pay my bloated bill.”

    “I need your account number before we can go any further.”

    “Uh-oh . . .”

    Bruce Buschel is a writer of nonfiction and an Off Broadway musical. He blogs for The New York Times about his restaurant in Bridgehampton, Southfork Kitchen. He has also directed and produced a series of jazz films, “Live at the Village Vanguard.”